Your Definition of This is Wrong

• 💡 Wisdom

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• 💬 Saying

• 🧭 Explanation

• 📝 Reflection

Estimated reading time: 4 minutes, 43 seconds

Asking for help isn’t weakness - it’s wisdom in action.

You don’t have to carry everything alone.

Reaching out is often the bravest move you can make.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help - be brave.

Bravery has many different forms.

We need to broaden our definition of bravery.

We often consider bravery to be the grand gestures, but it can also be the small, intimate cry for help.

The original inspiration for today’s wisdom came from this quote from one of my favourite books:

There’s a quiet strength in vulnerability.

When we ask for help, we honour our limits, invite connection, and keep moving forward - even when it is hard.

In a society that often praises independence and stoicism, it can feel uncomfortable to admit when we need help.

The truth is that nobody does life alone.

Asking for help shows humility, courage, and emotional intelligence.

Psychologists have found that people consistently underestimate others’ willingness to help too. In fact, most people want to be helpful - it strengthens bonds and deepens trust.

If you want to get more comfortable at being brave and asking for help, here’s 4 Tips to help you:

1. Notice the resistance. 
   When you hesitate to ask for help, stop and ask “What am I afraid of?”
   It is often the fear of appearing weak, but true weakness is pretending you’re fine when you’re actually not.

2. Start small. 
   You don’t have to dive into the deep end.
   Ask for something minor to start building the muscle.
   A quick favour. A sounding board. A listening ear.
   Work your way up from there.

3. Be clear and specific. 
   People want to help, but they need to know how.
   There’s nothing wrong with being direct with what you need.

4. Say yes when others offer. 
   Sometimes accepting help graciously is just as brave as requesting it.
   When someone offers their support, remind yourself that if you turn them down, you are depriving them of an opportunity for them to bless you.

Here are 3 journal prompts to help you explore today’s wisdom:

• When was the last time I truly asked for help? What held me back?

• Who are the people I can turn to, and do they know I trust them?

• How might asking for support make me stronger rather than weaker?

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Today’s resources have a soft spot in my heart: Charlie Mackesy’s The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse.

In fact, my now-wife and I met Mackesy back in 2019 for his book tour!

Since then, his modern classic has been adapted into a BAFTA-winning animated masterpiece.

If you like the Wisdom Made Easy visuals that I produce, you will love Mackesy’s work.

You can find it here:

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Thanks,
Michael