You Could Just Let Them?

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• 🧭 Explanation

• 📝 Reflection

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Not everything needs your reaction.

When people do things you don’t like - let them.

Experience peace by embracing the Let Them Theory.

Let’s look at today’s Wisdom Made Easy visual, inspired by Mel Robbins’ latest book:

Things get messy when you try to control the uncontrollable.

But when you focus on what you can control, you experience peace and empowerment.

Today’s saying perfectly sums up The Let Them Theory:

When you try to control the people around you - what they say, how they act, how they see you - you create unnecessary stress and disappointment.

Mel Robbins’ writing is a reminder that peace comes not from managing others, but from managing yourself.

“Let them” is a powerful mindset shift that frees you to focus on your own responses, values, and emotional well-being.

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care. It means you stop trying to control the uncontrollable.

If you find yourself worrying about other people’s actions, words and responses, you need to try try The Let Them Theory.

Here are 3 Ways to Practice “Let Them”:

1. Pause the urge to fix.

   When someone makes a choice that you wouldn’t, ask yourself: Is this mine to manage?

   If it’s an injustice that needs challenging, do it.

   If its not, let them.

2. Detach from imagined stories.

   David Foster Wallace wrote: “You'll stop caring what people think about you when you realise how seldom they do.”

   Don’t spiral into what it “means” when people act a certain way.

   Often, it’s not about you.

   Let them.

3. Protect your peace.

   Use “Let Them” as a mantra.

   When drama knocks or insecurity rises, whisper it to yourself.

   Let them. Let them. Let them.

I’ve found this theory to be particularly powerful when I partner it with prayer.

If someone cuts me off when I am driving, I “let them” and pray for that person’s day to improve.

When someone invites all of my friends to a party and leaves me off the list, I “let them” and I pray that they have an amazing time anyway.

Or even when someone says something hurtful online to me, I “let them” and pray that whatever post they engaged with might stir something up in them.

Build upon today’s wisdom with the Reflection and Resource below.

Here are 3 journal prompts to help you explore today’s wisdom:

• Where in my life am I trying too hard to control outcomes or people?

• What is something that I have been holding onto that I could just “let them?”

• What would my life look like if I “let them” more often??

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Thanks,
Michael